What is the first thing that you do when you wake up? Do you reach for your phone and check facebook, instagram, or email? How does that make you feel?
When you start your morning by looking at your phone before you’ve even gotten out of bed, something happens that changes your outlook on the day. It no longer becomes you writing your own show, creating your own story, living your own life. Instead, it becomes you reacting to someone else’s show, especially if you check social media first thing in the morning. Instead of looking at what you have and how lucky and grateful you are to be where you are, social media promotes a different biochemical response in all of us.
This biochemical difference is what makes us look at other peoples perfect pictures online and feel like we are missing out. It makes us focus on what we don’t have instead of being grateful for what we do have.
The key to happiness and fulfillment is plain and simple: be grateful for what you have and find ways to give to and help others. So for the next 12 days try something different. Instead of checking your phone first thing in the morning take that same 5 minutes to Write down 3 things that you are grateful for each morning. They can be 3 experiences from the past that have changed your life for the better. Is there a person in your life that you are grateful for? Is there a certain toy, car or object that you are grateful for? Is it a certain life experience? A vacation, adventure, job or skill that you have developed? 
Now sit up in your chair, close your eyes for 5 minutes, take 10 deep breaths and think about those 3 things that you are grateful for. Think about them in detail, step into the moment as if you were there again at that peak moment and feel what it feels like to be grateful. After 5 minutes is up reflect on what you are feeling and write it down in a journal.

true happiness is possible

Our Mission

Our goal at Are We Thriving is to show you how to take action and start living your life instead of just watching other people live theirs. Here you will find the tools, suggestions and routines that can truly help you experience more of the riches in life! Our 30 Day social media plan is being revealed on Instagram now, check it out and replicate those methods and you will see measurable increases in your self confidence, your fulfillment, and your overall happiness. What are you waiting for!? Click below to get started!


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E-mail Us At: AreWeThriving@gmail.com
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We Have a crisis in the United states today!!!

  1. We have the highest rates of depression among teens and young adults

  2. The highest rates of suicide among teens and young adults

  3. The #1 Cause of death for those under 50 is no longer Heart Disease, It’s DRUG OVERDOSE! A Completely preventable cause of death!

I am here to make sure that you do not become one of those statistics

I started Are We Thriving in order to show you how to live your life instead of watching other people live theirs, my goal is to show you how to be the one posting these videos and going on these adventures instead of just watching them

Join Our Challenge!

Order your "Ask Me Why I'm Here Shirt" by clicking HERE. Wear the shirt out in public and when someone asks you the question reply with:

"I am here to meet 5 people today, tell me about yourself"

This will do 3 things automatically:

1. Stimulate the release of oxytocin between you and that individual

2. That person will feel great because you are asking them to talk about themselves and EVERYBODY loves talking about themselves.

3. The cell phone automatically goes in your pocket. A situation which otherwise would have been the two of you on your phones, turns into one of connection and relationship building.

Contest Prizes! $100 AMAZON GIFT CARD

Take a picture/video with 5 people that you meet with your shirt on. Then post these pictures to your instagram account and tag us @arewethriving_ and for every 5 that we receive from you, your name will be entered to win a $100 amazon gift card!

Drawings will be every week! If you tag us in 10 posts then your name will be entered in the drawing twice, so the more you tag us the higher your chances of winning are!

Our why

Thank you for taking the time to check us out, my name is Alex O’Connor and I created Are We Thriving because I see a fundamental problem in our society today. In the United States, we have the highest diagnoses of depression in teens and young adults than ever before, the highest suicide rate among teens and young adults than ever before and the leading cause of death for those under 50 is no longer heart disease. It is drug overdose! A completely preventable cause of death! This is a crisis that I need to fight and I need your help!

What has caused this? I believe that our society has lost touch with what truly makes us fulfilled. We are all connected but we are not connecting with one another enough. It may seem like we are because we all have 2,000 friends on Facebook. However, how many of those “friends” do we actually consider friends? How many can we can call in times of need and truly rely on and connect with?

The Biochemical Problem

This problem has extreme biochemical effects. When you communicate face to face with another person your brain releases a chemical called oxytocin. This is known commonly as the “trust” molecule. Oxytocin is the same chemical that bonds mother and child at birth. When oxytocin is released in our brain, we form a bond with the person that we are communicating with and that is why talking to someone in person gives us that sense of fulfillment.

Conversely, when someone likes our latest Instagram photo or comments on our Facebook wall, our brain does not release oxytocin. Why does it feel so desirable? Because our brain releases dopamine: an extremely addictive chemical which is also released when we smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, and gamble. We have laws that limit the age that we can participate in all of these activities, however, we do not have any regulations regarding  social media use; any social programs to help those who are addicted to social media or any social programs designed  to educate those who are currently using social media of the negative impacts that may, and do, occur. Most people my age do not realize the harmful effects of overexposure to social media, but the consequences that will result if this trend continues will be disastrous. Over time, the figures explained above will only increase and our next generations will grow further and further apart.

So What is The Solution?

The solution to this crisis is to reignite that fundamental human connection that we all truly thrive on! Our Ask Me Why I’m Here campaign is designed to promote human to human contact and bring people closer together. I go around on college campuses and stand in line at coffee shops with a shirt that has a question on the back: “Ask Me Why I’m Here”. Every single time someone has read the back of my shirt and ask me the question and I always reply with “I am here to meet 5 new people today! Tell me about yourself.” This immediately does 3 things:

  1. stimulates the release of oxytocin between that individual and I, creating a new relationship

  2. Makes the new person feel great because I am asking him/her to tell me about themselves and everyone loves to talk about themselves!

  3. Their phone automatically goes in their pocket

So instead of waiting in line and checking my Instagram or Facebook feed and looking at what I am missing out on, I am meeting a new person, making a new connection and truly experiencing that sense of fulfillment and joy that comes with meeting someone new. This is a great icebreaker too if your shy this is the perfect shirt for you! You won’t have to approach others awkwardly, just wear the shirt and they will approach you! Click here to order a shirt and try it out! You can order a shirt at the link below they’re only $10 and if you tag us on social media with 5 new people that you meet while wearing the shirt you will be entered to win a $100 Amazon gift card. Winners will be announced every 2 weeks! Check out my video below to see how this works:

How Can I Help?

Follow us on instagram @AreWeThriving_ and spread the news to your friends, family members and everyone that you meet! Wear a shirt and tag us on social media to keep us up to date on your progress and be entered to win a $100 Amazon gift card!

If you are tired of scrolling through peoples Instagram stories and watching what you are missing out on then now is the time to start living your life instead of just watching other people live theirs! Follow me on this journey and you will see measurable results in the amount of joy, happiness, fulfillment and true richness of life that you will experience right away!

So my question to you is: Are You Thriving? I hope we all will be soon!

Make it a great day!

Alex O’Connor Founder and CEO of Are We Thriving


"We Make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give."

- Winston Churchill


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